In the popular TV series by this name, a pastor’s family is shown for what it is. A normal family struggling through the difficulties and joys of life. For some reason we all seem to think everyone else’s family and situation is “7th Heaven” when in reality they have their pain and troubles like all of us. Whether you are a single parent or a family that fits a “traditional” mold, we all need to realize God wants to be our helper.

Every partnership has to have distinct roles. Even in the Trinity, God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit, each one plays their specific role. Is one more important than the other? No. But each is different. So it is in the family!

If there are two parents in your family, each have their roles. The Father/ Husband is the leader, protector, and provider. God established that in Ephesians 5 and I Timothy

The role of the Mother/Wife is to be the helper to the husband (Genesis 2). This is not meant to be a lesser role than the leader. In the Bible, God talks many times of being our “helper.” The Holy Spirit was sent to be our “helper.” The role of the woman is also to be the mother (Genesis 3:16). God established women with a nurturing heart and He established men with a protecting spirit. I think it is illustrated best when little boys gravitate toward protecting their mother and little sister,” while little girls feed and change the diapers on their baby doll. God made us different. Let us celebrate our roles and not try to be what we are not.

QUESTION: What can we do, as parents, to help our boys have a healthy understanding of what it means to be a man? How can we model femininity for our girls in order that they see it as a high calling to be a wife and mother?