“…submitting to one another in the fear of God. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for her….”

Ephesians 5:21-25, NKJV

      Did you hear the joke about the female reporter who visited Kuwait and was outraged? She noticed that the women walked at least four steps behind their husbands. With great agitation she told the women that this was taking submission too far. Several years later the same reporter returned to Kuwait and found the men now walk at least four feet behind the women. The reporter was thrilled. She then talked to a Kuwait woman and expressed how happy she was that the submission issue had shifted and real progress could now be made for women’s rights. “What caused the change,” she asked! “Land mines,” was the reply!

      We laugh at this silly joke. However, many Christian men sense that their wives have one response only and that is to submit. It is interesting in Ephesians 5:21-33 the Apostle Paul presents a prelude to a woman’s submission to her husband. First and foremost, there is dual submission. The Greek word is hypotossomai, which means to be in order. There are other Greek words that carry a deeper meaning of authority. This word is one that describes our giving of ourselves to each other for the purpose of reverence to God.

      Submission is found in the passage as a wife to a husband, a husband’s identification with Christ’s sacrifice, a child’s obedience to his parents, and an employee obeying the employer.

      A happy family is one that knows God’s order and sacrificially submits to each other out of reverence for Christ. This type of submission produces a sense of dependence on God that is healthy and fulfilling. This is true Biblical submission.

QUESTION: In what way do you submit to your spouse in order to provide peace in your family? What are the limits of submission in relation to your work?