“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her…”
Ephesians 5:21-23, 25, NIV

Our society has a way of turning things upside down. The gender roles are a good example. The feminist movement during the last three decades has tried to make women more like men, and men more like women. It has equated equality with being the same. Men have lost their identity. Masculinity is not hanging out with the buddies at the neighborhood bar or surfing TV channels while barking orders to the wife or kids.

True masculinity, as described in the Bible, is being willing to love our wives as much as Christ loved the church. (Ephesians 5:25) That means even dying for her. That is the love God expects of us.

Even though Ephesians. 5:21-23 describes the man as “head of the wife,” this does not mean dictator or king. The meaning is leader. Someone has the role of leader in every partnership. In marriage the husband has the role of leader, but that means in Jesus’ own words, “servant.” A true man serves his wife and family.

True masculinity is to be a provider and protector (Proverbs 12:11, 14:23). Part of the role God gave man in Genesis 3 was that of provider for his family. A true masculine man is also a teacher. Proverbs 4:1-4 tells us we are to teach our children. Our children will learn from someone; God intended it to be the home, with the father being the leader. If you are a single mom, as my mom was, finding godly men in your church will help give your boys a stable masculine figure to learn from.

QUESTION: Dad, are you being the partner, provider, and teacher God intended you to be? What can you do today, or this week, to be that masculine, godly man your wife and children need?