“So don’t bother rebuking mockers; they will only hate you. But the wise, when rebuked, will love you all the more. Teach the wise, and they will be wiser. Teach the righteous, and they will learn more.”
Do you agree with these axioms?
No one likes to be wrong.
No one tries to be wrong.
No one is right all the time.
Not many like to be corrected.
I was a youth pastor in my first full-time position. I was reading a book that was challenging me in my walk with Christ. It mentioned the above verses and asked this question: (1)When was the last time someone corrected you? (I actually was feeling pretty good because it had been a long time since I had been corrected.) And then the hammer fell with the second question: (2) Is it because you are without fault or maybe they do not count you as wise? (v.8) It hit me like a ton of bricks. In my desire to improve and to avoid criticism, I had locked feedback out of my life.
I decided I needed not only to accept developmental feedback, I needed to invite some people into my life to give me feedback on a regular basis. I needed people who loved me and would be honest with me. This was not easy and I must tell you it is one of the best things I have ever done. I was way under leveraged when I was on my own and received little feedback. I have now invited several people to give me feedback and I regularly ask for it. It hurts sometimes, but I am happy that little by little God can use others to change me.
QUESTION: When was the last time you were corrected? How many people give you feedback on a regular basis? Where do you sense you need to change? Who do you need to invite into your private world?