“An evil man is stubborn, but a Godly man will reconsider.”
Proverbs 21:29, NLT
When it comes to change, many of us are like Governor Van Buren when he wrote this note to the President: “The canal system of this country is being threatened by the spread of a new form of transportation known as ‘railroads.’… As you may well know, railroad carriages are pulled at the enormous speed of fifteen miles per hour by engines which, in addition to endangering life and limb of passengers, roar and snort their way through the countryside. The Almighty certainly never intended that people should travel at such breakneck speed.”
Change is in the air and happening at record speeds. Many of the changes we face are not within our control, as we learned on September 11th, but how we respond to change can be controlled. Twyman L. Towery compares the stages of change to the stages of grief:
DENIAL: Our first reaction is to deny, rather than adapt to and embrace, the change in our life.
ANGER: Once we realize we cannot stop the change we become angry that it is outside of our control. If we do not understand where the anger is coming from, we can mistakenly hurt the people we perceive to be initiating the change.
BARGAINING: This is an attempt to avoid change by bargaining it away.
EXPLORATION: We begin to accept that there is going to be change and explore ways to deal with the change. Depression can become a reality during this stage as we give up being able to control the circumstances.
COMMITMENT: We accept and embrace the change. We begin to see some possible benefits of the change.
Change is never easy, but before you respond, remember Proverbs 21:29: “An evil man is stubborn, but a Godly man will reconsider.”
QUESTION: What stage are you in today with the major changes happening in your life?